Kevin Connors, MFT - Specializing in the Dissociative Disorders, DID, and Trauma
Office in Long Beach, Ca.

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My areas of particular strength include: 

Dissociation, human sexuality, gender issues, PTSD, depression, and trauma (e.g., rape, incest, ritual abuse), and complex trauma.


1.  What are the Dissociative Disorders?

2.  Questions people usually ask during our first phone call

3.  A few questions to ask yourself

4.  The truth about Dissociative Disorders

5.  What to look for in a therapist

What are the Dissociative Disorders?
The Dissociative Disorders are characterized by a disruption of and/or discontinuity in the normal integration of consciousness, memory, identity, emotion, perception, body representation,
motor control, and behavior.  
(DSM-5, published 2013)
Dissociative Amnesia
Dissociative Amnesia is fundamentally an inability to recall autobiographical information that is inconsistent with normal forgetting. 
This amnesia may be localized (i.e., an event or period of time), selective (i.e., a specific aspect of an event), or generalized (i.e. identity and life history). 
 It may, or may not, involve purposeful travel or bewildered wandering (i.e. fugue). Dissociative fugues, wherein the person discovers dissociated travel, are common.  Individuals with Dissociative Identity Disorder may report that they have suddenly found themselves at the beach, at work, in a nightclub, or somewhere at home (e.g., closet, in the corner) with no memory of how they came to be there. 
Some individuals have a sense of "losing time," however, most are initially unaware of their amnesia.  Awareness of amnesia occurs only when personal information is missing (i.e., someone else tells them about that they cannot recall). 
Dissociative Identity Disorder
(DID, formerly MPD)
Dissociative Disorder is characterized by:
     a) the presence of two or more distinct personality states,
     b) recurrent episodes of amnesia or gaps in the recall of
          everyday events. 
Individuals may experience recurrent, inexplicable intrusions into their conscious functioning and sense of self (e.g., voices, dissociated actions and speech; intrusive thoughts, emotions and impulses), and alterations in sense of self (e.g., attitudes, preferences, and feeling like one's body or actions are not one's own, and odd changes of perception (e.g., depersonalization or derealization, such as feeling detached from one's body while cutting, and intermittent functional neurological symptoms 
Although DID is diagnosed almost entirely among women, therapists speculate that it may be equally common among men. However, men tend to be less likely to seek treatment.
Depersonalization/Derealization Disorder
This disorder is characterized by persistent or recurrent depersonalization (i.e., experiences of unreality or detachment from one's mind, self, or body) and /or derealization (i.e., experiences of unreality or detachment from one's surroundings). 
There is no evidence of any distinction between individuals with predominantly depersonalization versus derealization symptoms.  Individuals with this disorder can have depersonalization,
derealization, or both.  During the depersonalization experience, reality testing remains intact.


Questions people usually ask
during our first phone call...

Q: Where do people seek treatment for DID (formerly MPD)?
      Answer: Hopefully, only from therapists who specialize in DID.
Q:  How can a family be impacted by a dissociative disorder?
      Answer:  Just look at your own life and family for the answer.
Q:  I'm searching for a Dissociative Disorders specialist.  Can you
    Answer:  Yes.  Call me at (562) 498-4937.  
    Or, visit for a list of specialists around the world.

Q:  How is Dissociative Identity Disorder treated?           
     Answer: Usually through prolonged psychodynamic    psychotherapy (aka talk-therapy) that follows three specific     stages: stabilization, resolution of trauma issues, and maintenance.   (See page 3, Treatment Techniques for more information.)

A few questions
to ask yourself

1.  Do you feel like your  
     life is a balancing  act, 
     and you could fall off at
     any moment? 
2.   Do you know that high
      intelligence and creativity
      are correlated with DID?
3.  Do you know that not
     everyone has a dozen
     Sybil-like, fully-developed
     personalities that live
     separate lives, complete
     with different names, ages,
     races, wardrobes, hobbies,
     allergies, genders, and
Some people have only
one or two personalities that are all-consuming,
and a few emotional states
or ego-states,
that can be temporarily overwhelming. 
Some people discover this about themselves early in life;
while others do not come to this self-realization until
much later in life.
4.   Is your past or  your
      present a blur?  
5.  Would you like to be present
      for your life, to really
      experience your own life?
6.   Is your habit of dissociating
      interfering with the quality
      of your life, or your ability 
      to keep a job or 
7.   Is dissociating depriving
      you of a satisfying sex life?
8.   Does your romantic
      partner complain that
      you don't seem
      connected to him or
      her, or that you are 
      not present much of 
      the time? 
9.   Do you awake in the
      morning wearing different
      clothes than you went to
      bed wearing?    Or do you
      find dirty dishes in the sink
      in the morning?
9.  Have friends mentioned that
     you sent them an email, or
     called them, but you don't
     remember doing it?
10.  Do clothes seem to
       magically appear in your
       closet?    Or does money
       seem to magically 
       disappear from your 
11.  Do strangers seem to know
       you, or call you by a
       strange name?
Let's be honest,
this isn't going away
You didn't get here
and you won't feel
and present

even after the therapy is technically over, you may benefit greatly from the emotional support of someone who knows you,
understands you,
and can walk compassionately with you on your journey. 
Here's the truth about
 dissociative disorders
Not everyone conforms
 perfectly to the definitions
and descriptions of the
 dissociative disorders.
Sensationalizing books
and movies aside,
not everyone has a
traumatic history of
horrific childhood abuse.
Some folks have ordinary stories, and every person
has their own story. 
Truth is, what is unbearable
 for one person may be very bearable for another;
 what is devastating to
one person may be very tolerable to another.
Each person has their own breaking-point: that moment when life was too much to
bear and a more satisfying
 life had to be created.
For some people, a more satisfying life would be one where they were not
emotionally present, and,
 to that end, they began to leave  their body.  In that way, they did not have to experience physically or emotionally  what was happening to them,
 or around them.
For some people, a more satisfying life would be one where they didn't have to be themself, and to that end,
they began to split-off their
sad, angry, or helpless feelings; thereby allowing them to be 
who or what they wanted to be.
For some people, a more satisfying life would be
one where they could live
 in peace, in a fantasy world
of their own making.
Some children become
so accomplished at the
skill of checking-out,
that, as adults, they
to work extremely
hard at being present 
their own lives.

If inner-peace, contentment, and joy in life are your goals,
then it may be time to
ask for professional help. 
* * * * *


What to look for in a therapist...

1. YEARS of experience
       working with the various
       dissociative disorders.
2. YEARS of experience
       working with trauma,
       neglect, betrayal, abuse,    
       abandonment,  premature
       adulthood, sexual assault,
       incest, death, loss, or the
       specific issues that have   
       affected your life.
       and/or certification in the
       areas related to your
       situation, e.g., grief, 
       trauma, dissociation. 

4. The WILLINGNESS to make
       a long-term commitment to
       your therapy and to your
  Contact Me... 
Kevin Connors, MFT             (562) 498-4937

Office in Long Beach, Ca.

If I do not return your call within a few minutes, I am in session and I will return your call as soon as possible.


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